To all the guys who want to hit on a Hong Kong girl, you should read this before you take any action. Hong Kong girls can be super sweet and poisonous at the same time. They can be a flower in the sun, the soft mist in the morning, but they can also be a mosquito in a Sunday hike (that bites you 5 times in 1 minute) and a nightmare in the hell.
So here’s what they look like:
1. Princess-like
They think that they’re a princess (sometimes a queen) and that they’re dreaming of a prince to come to them and carry them away onto a white horse, running to a never-land. They spend hours every day dreaming of their perfect man in head, but won’t do anything to look for them (a princess don’t need to work!) but merely sit in their home watching lame TV shows.
That’s why they like everything in pink, the official favourite colour of a princess.
- Pink nails
- Pink Hello Kitty cushion, headphones, bags and wallet etc.
- Pink bras and underwear (with excessive lace trims)
How the “Princess” emerged?
Hong Kong girls’ princess-like instinct has been gradually developed because:
- Lots of Korean soap TV series and Taiwanese teenage dramas have been excessively illustrating the “perfect prince-like boyfriend” who are flawless in every single way – being handsome, rich, caring and not playboy-like.
- Watching animation is a great part of a primary-school kid’s life and the girls’ brains are inevitably instilled with the dreaminess of the Disneyland characters (e.g. the 6 princesses) and Hello Kitty.
A princess-like Hong Kong girl like everything in pink
2. Ultra Materialistic
This is their instinct, you just can’t change. You won’t find it hard to see Hong Kong girls carry Louis Vuitton and Gucci bags (real or fake) on the street. This can be reflect in:
- Whenever there is a big day (like their birthday, Valentine’s Day or Christmas), they expect their boyfriend to buy them brandname products
- Getting more brandname products means you’re being more popular among your friends
- Even though their’re not carrying a designer bag, they will still do some research and talk about it as if they’re owning it
So that in the end, people would think that they got taste and they are classy.
3. Always in Control
It basically means:
- “I can meet other guys though I’m being your girlfriend but you cannot see other girls”
- “Give me at least 10 phone calls per day to report to me what you have done”
- “Why the hell you didn’t answer your phone? Were you with other girls?”
- “Give me your pay check, I will do the deposit for you”
But aren’t they obedient too?
Yes, in limited times. They will be obedient in the sense that they’re afraid of losing you. They talk to you in such a soft voice to make you feel bad to hurt such a vulnerable girl.
4. Sweet
Of course they can be a sweetheart. They don’t mind putting massive effort in making you feel like you’re the best person in the world. If a Hong Kong girl really likes you and falls for you, they will homemade stuff for you as if you become their husband already. They will learn those household skills like the following (which are good for the education industry):
- Cooking
- Cake baking
- Knitting
Would you fall for a Hong Kong girl who makes homemade cake for you?
They will love you to the point that they cannot live without you and see you as a part of her family, so she will be willing to do those things above to take care of your life. But beware that sometimes they glue themselves too much to you that if you don’t show the same level of care, they will feel very depressed.
Don’t try to judge me why I’m being so negative to Hong Kong girls. These facts are true, and in fact some guys will prefer a mix of some of the characteristics above. I mean, do you want your girlfriend to be one that who are so obedient that she only says yes and never gives out her own opinion?
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Haha…
Funny stuff.
Shanghai girls are far worse – trust me….
Yes, I was overwhelmed by Shanghai girls’ aggressiveness. In fact, loads of Shanghai-ese hate Hong Kongers.
Shanghainese are addictive but poisonous about feelings, inducing lots of ambiguous and contrasted emotions.
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Really? Why is that? Do they see HK’ers as competition?
Because money overrides everything. They sell their soul to enjoy the ego of being rich and leading a glamorous life. They need to learn that there are far more interesting things in the world than money and status.
you are very correct, i cannot understand why some drop dead gorgeous chinese girls rent out their pussies for a few bucks when they could attract men of means and get a lot more money.
HK girls are not unique this way.
All women are like this. They seek endlessly for social status – and any man with them has to feed their obsessive desire for social status. HK girls are just more like this than most.
Smart men will never feed the beast. Ever. When you start feeding it, the woman will love you for your ability to feed her status demon.
A man who does this is “giving in”. He’s shown himself to be weak and nothing but a tool for her; she will therefore then use him as a tool.
if you don’t want to be used as a tool, maintain your independence and never feed her demon. Walk away if necessary.
Ironically, most women will be more devoted to you than they would otherwise. Why? Because you were able to resist her expectations and therefore you’re a more impressive male than others. You’re Stronger.
If she still balks and throws fits and wants the status-show, the best thing to do is not negotiate, not break down–
Just leave.
She’s like this now, … then she does not have the capacity to actually like another human being except for practical purposes. Lots of men and women are like this: but for men, when a woman is like this, and her material demon can’t be overcome, then her value in terms of relationships is zero.
Leave her immediately. In fact, it’s a great test to see how much humanity a woman has.
I can partially agree with you but Hong Kong is one of the worst. I think that there are still some women seeking for a real relationship but it’s the society’s layer that creates the urge for them to look for a rich guy to look after them. That actually makes them low status and cheap and I don’t think all the men like it. If men like that, those men are pathetic themselves.
But it’s true that Men are more impressive if they resist women’s expextations..perhaps it’s because everyone loves challenges. Leaving is a good option. But that also makes more men fall as a victim in this stupid games.
I don’t think Hong Kong girls would wake up unless the financial sector in Hong Kong disappears.
The problem is male and female nature.
Men chase women because of their basic desires. It’s programmed into us. We dance and sing and show off like peacocks. Giving presents is a way to “buy” favours, or to impress. But showing up to the cave with a dead animal or a fancy new rock or a pretty bauble is a poor way to buy your love’s favours.
Men who are smart don’t do this. They impress with characters.
Women test men with little tests to see if they’re weak or easy to manipulate.
They have three categories of men:
1 – Men not worthy of attention. These become “friends”. Men hate to be put in this category.
2 – Men who are useful. These include BFs with cars, BFs with money, and husbands with social status and money to give women,
3 – Men with character and strength.
Women are most loyal to the last category.
They throw out tests all the time, to see where men should be. These tests never stop, ever. Men don’t do this to women: Men are more simple.
Women judge, and men perform.
If you fail these little tests – buy me a hand bag, pick me up every day after work even when it’s not important, carry my bag, get me stylish things – then she puts you into category 2.
All men should seek to be in category 3.
But the problem is, in a materialistic society, often, character isn’t important. other people – all other people, not just men – are nothing but tools for more wealth or social status.
Societies like this don’t celebrate humanity.
But all societies are like this in some way.
It’s just how it is.
I agree. So give nothing. Absolutely nothing.
‘Oh it’s your birthday? Yeah well have fun, I’m busy’.
haha
Yes. Girls will get pissed off but it will make them love you more (or dump you faster). Which is good because men will get more respect or if men get dumped, those manipulative women will get filtered off. Good for men.
But what it matters is to show the women that men do care about their birthday but not giving gifts just for the sake of giving it.
Craig, I think that women do love men with character and strength and this is the most attractive category to me. In fact if men fall into category 1 or 2, they won’t earn respect from women so men themselves become pathetic and low-status (even if he is rich and high-status) and the whole relationship will be pathetic as well.
But capitalism and materialism have ruined many potentially beautiful relationship, and now women only judge men by their wealth and status but never care about characters, or they care about characters only when they make sure that the man is rich enough to make her stay with him to get to know him more and find out his characters.
Humanity is evolved with human thinkings that drive science and technology but it’s also halted by human thinkings.
Very Informative. Take this into consideration.
You’re welcome. Keep in mind that there are a lot of good Hong Kong girls out there too
That’s the problem though Jin. There are many good HK girls and Shanghai girls too. But the reputation of both being prissy little Princess-types can be so huge that it precedes them greatly.
If I find out the girl I am talking to is Shanghainese all these pre-conceived prejudices come into play as I then regard her as being a money-grabbing player. Of course, not always true, but that is what has happened I think.
I will keep that in mind. Not just Hong Kong girls but any type of girl (regardless of ethnicity). It takes a while to find a true gem of a girl (same can be said of guys). The thing I am finding with Oriental girls in particular is how to balance the right amount of being flexible but also sticking to boundaries in terms of what I don’t find acceptable behavior. I find outlining basic things I look for (like 5-7 major qualities in a girl) helps to limit who I choose to pursue and reduce the number of heartaches created all around.
You have quite a philosophy huh? I think it’s always nice not to look for someone perfect, because that takes time where you can otherwise enjoy a nice relationship with a not-so-perfect one.
Shanghainese girls are even more aggressive than Hong Kong girls in money-grabbing I found. In fact this is true for all the big cities in the world but the emphasis of the money is the biggest in Asian cities especially Hong Kong, Seoul and Shanghai etc. Because there are too many people and businesses coming around and going away.
Good girls are rare, but once you find them, they’re a treasure.
It is a philosophy. It’s not a matter of looking for someone perfect, but rather a girl I know is going to make it worthwhile. I guess I’m weird for looking and thinking about long term potential (like getting married) so I guess that’s why I look for girls to have certain qualities as I am searching to settle.
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That is a super-peachy-keen post. Thanks for really blathering on like that! Seriously, I don’t think I could have spent more effort wishing for something heavy to fall on me to erase that nonsense from my mind!
Thank you for your time reading my posts. I am always blathering with nonsenses.
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i used to get really bothered by getting rejected from girls even though i know they were immature. fact is i am good-looking, confident, kind, good-hearted, funny, tall and own my own apartment.
what i came to realize is that the characteristics i posses is better suited for long-term and many girls in their 20s find that i’m not much of a challenge. i admit, i’m not the most challenging but that’s who i am, i am more of a well built cruise than a fancy speed boat.
conclusion is that i believe if you look hard enough, and look past the girls that are attractive but immature, ultimately you’ll find someone that genuinely loves you.
fuck i might have to wait till the girls mature in their 30s unless i get VERY lucky meeting that someone.
Thanks for your comment and support to my blog.
That’s what I was told by my friends at their 30s. A lot of them prefer dating girls at their late 20s because they’re young than those in the 30s but more mature than those in the early 20s. Asian girls (and HK girls in particular) have long been criticized as being immature because they only see dollar sign when picking a husband.
In Hong Kong, I think that girls at 20s don’t prefer dating guys at 30s not just because of the age difference, but also, girls don’t want to give the guys a signal that she might want to be his wife. The girl is too young while the guy is at marriage age. That’s the problem.
But I guess for your case, you would have better chance finding a girlfriend in Shanghai. Shanghai girls want to get married early (max. at 25 – 26 years oly ideally) because of the social expectation.
All in all, I wish you all the best. There are still a ton of girls who are young and mature, you just need some time to look for them. High-quality stuff aren’t that easy to find. But once you’ve found them, you know that it’s so worth it.
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Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised (Proverbs 31)
Thanks for the words of wisdom.
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are there any ‘normal girls’ in HK without this ‘princess sickness’ 公主病 B.S?
Yes, if you’re lucky.
crossing my fingers and toes then!
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found this post and had to comment. i met a girl through mutual friends and she showed signs of interest. there were drinking involved, we made out. fast forward couple days later, asked her to join me for dinner. she agreed then went back to my place after. we had sex that night. i want to date this girl so i arranged another meeting.
that night was a no-show
funny sequence of events….
Wonder if she was coming up to the age of 30? HK women get pretty promiscuous at that age as they are trying to gain some kind of leverage with as many men as possible – thereby maximizing the chance one of them will come up with the goods (ie marriage).
Thanks for your comment, Tom.
Lots of people say most Chinese women approaching 30 and who are single would be in the fear of not having someone to married, thus trying to do what you observe. Good observation.
But I guess it’s also true for a lot of women in the world?
Hi.
Thanks for the article! Very informative.
I have a question that I’m hoping you could answer. I’m about to head back overseas to start teaching English. Go figure, right?
Well, while I was in the Navy, I went to Hong Kong several times during my 5 year gig over on a ship in Japan. I met a great girl in HK during 06′, and we hit it off pretty good. Kept in touch over the years and now that I’m about to return to China, are talking about starting to date seriously now that I won’t have to leave after a four day port visit.
My question is, now that I’m 26 and she’s 25, what are some things I should be looking for? My dating with Asians is limited to pretty much Japanese girls who are very western.
I know she’s dated another American after I was around, and I know in traditional Chinese ( mainland ) culture, it’s looked down upon. Also, she’s single still and is approaching the “leftover” age bracket or whatever. So I have a few concerns as to what to expect, and to watch out for.
She was a great girl years ago. Don’t get me wrong. I just fear that there may be some underlying details she might be leaving out. Right now, we’re keeping in touch through QQ, Skype and regular e-mail. She seems sincere enough, often talking about our past and always wearing my dog tags. Lol I just can’t read her like I can ( like to believe at least ) Americans or Japanese Nationals.
So any input would be greatly appreciated by anyone! Thanks.
Thanks for your comment. Don’t waste her time by just hanging around because she’s approaching the marriage age. If you two are very serious about one another, go ahead. If you like her so much that all those cultural crashes can be solved, go for it.
Be patient, be sincere and most importantly, respect her as a girlfriend and a person. You should expect that there would be cultural difference and communication problems that lead to arguments and quarrels. But don’t criticize on her too much, step back and relax. The next day, things will be better.
Don’t move in together too fast. That’s an very important tip.
so many true comments, from both sides.. i guess i am glad i am not dating a hk girl then, even though my girl lives in hk! hahaha…
Hi.
A little late, I know, but had to comment and ask a question.
Great article first off! I was in the Navy and was over on a ship in Japan, and going to HK a few times I think you’re spot on about the females there. However I met a girl there my first trip there in 06′ and got pretty close during my week stay.
Afterwards we drifted apart of course and now we’re considering hooking back up, as I’m about to start doing the ESL gig on the mainland. My concerns are pretty lame I guess, but she’s 25 now, and I’m 26. What’s something I should watch for while in the dating phase? I know there is a huge burden of being married and such at young ages on the mainland, what about Hong Kong? I just fear that she’s changed drastically, and worried about marriage. I know she’s dated one other foreigner and in the mainland ( from my understanding ) it’s looked down upon a lot in the traditional mindset.
I admit, my knowledge of Chinese culture is limited to her since I was stationed in Japan. They’re pretty much western style over there as far as dating and marriage goes.
Thanks for the article!